If you’ve spent any time online, you’ve heard the advice: take a bath, light a candle, say no sometimes, treat yourself. And to be clear — none of that is wrong. A warm bath is wonderful. Candles are lovely. But if you’ve spent years, maybe decades, as the one everyone counts on — the fixer, the planner, the one who notices what everyone else needs before they even ask — you may have tried all of that and still felt… unchanged. Still tired in a way that sleep doesn’t touch. S